It is a hell of a thing to write about brutality and suffering with strength, grace, generosity and beauty. Thats precisely what Kelly Sundberg has done in her gripping memoir about marriage and domestic violence. Sundbergs honesty is astonishing, how she laid so much of herself bare, how she did not demonize a man who deserves to be demonized. Instead, she offers a portrait of a broken man and a broken marriage and an abiding love, what it took to set herself free from it all. In shimmering, open hearted prose, she shows that it took everything."--Roxane Gay, author of Hunger and Bad Feminist"In her stunning memoir, Kelly Sundberg examines the heart-breaking bonds of love, detailing her near decade-long marriages slide into horrific abuse. Sundberg shares her own confusions, fears and empathy for her violent husband, even as she comes to realize he will never change. This is an immensely courageous story that will break your heart, leave you in tears, and, finally, offer hope and redemption. Brava, Kelly Sundberg."Rene Denfeld, author of The Child Finder"A fierce, frightening, soulful reckoningGoodbye, Sweet Girl is an expertly rendered memoir that investigates why we stay in relationships that hurt us, and how we survive when we leave them. Kelly Sundberg is a force. She has written the rare book that has the power to change lives."Christa Parravani, author of Her: A MemoirIn this brave and beautiful memoir, written with the raw honesty and devastating openness of The Glass Castle and The Liars Club, a woman chronicles how her marriage devolved from a love story into a shocking tale of abuseexamining the tenderness and violence entwined in the relationship, why she endured years of physical and emotional pain, and how she eventually broke free."You made me hit you in the face," he said mournfully. "Now everyone is going to know." "I know," I said. "Im sorry."Kelly Sundbergs husband, Caleb, was a funny, warm, supportive man and a wonderful father to their little boy Reed. He was also vengeful and violent. But Sundberg did not know that when she fell in love, and for years told herself he would get better. It took a decade for her to ultimately accept that the partnership she desired could not work with such a broken man. In her remarkable book, she offers an intimate record of the joys and terrors that accompanied her long, difficult awakening, and presents a haunting, heartbreaking glimpse into why women remain too long in dangerous relationships.To understand herself and her violent marriage, Sundberg looks to her childhood in Salmon, a small, isolated mountain community known as the most redneck town in Idaho. Like her marriage, Salmon is a place of deep contradictions, where Mormon ranchers and hippie back-to-landers live side-by-side; a place of magical beauty riven by secret brutality; a place that takes pride in its individualism and rugged self-sufficiency, yet is beholden to church and communal standards at all costs.Mesmerizing and poetic, Goodbye, Sweet Girl is a harrowing, cautionary, and ultimately redemptive tale that brilliantly illuminates one womans transformation as she gradually rejects the painful reality of her violent life at the hands of the man who is supposed to cherish her, begins to accept responsibility for herself, and learns to believe that she deserves better....
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Goodbye, Sweet Girl: A Story of Domestic Violence and Survival Reviews
I really appreciate Kelly Sundberg for having the courage to share her story. Maybe others who find themselves in this type of situation or in the beginning or one will find the strength to get out. I am fortunate that I am in a loving marriage. Although, my sister has not been as luckily. She has been in several abusive relationships. One of the relationships she was warned in the beginning. The other ones, the guys put on a good front before their true colors were revealed.
I saw Kelly grow st ...more
This is a very honest and open account of being in an abusive marriage. It's also a story of hope, strength, and survival.
Forget the concept of “The Great American Novel,” instead embrace the Great American Memoir. Kelly’s memoir stands up to the moniker and defies expectation for what a memoir about domestic violence is or should be. She handles the subject with enough grace that you have a sense of who she’s writing about: Herself and others. Her ability to craft scene and dialogue blew me away. She carries herself with such talent and heart that putting this book down was nearly impossible! Goodbye, Sweet Girl h ...more
Kelly Sundberg is extremely open when telling her story as a domestic violence survivor that allows the reader to understand the many other women facing this very problem. Sundberg not only tells the horrific details of the violence placed upon her, but also the moments that lead her to stay with her abuser. The strength in which Sundberg tells her story is astonishing and so very powerful. I flew through this book in only a couple of sitting, as I could not wait to see the author escape from he ...more
This memoir has so much honesty and raw emotion. It’s a difficult topic but the author doesn’t shy away from laying bare the journey that put her in a position where she went from an eager woman who wanted to love and be loved to someone who had to hide bruises. She parts the cover with finesse to report on how abuse can enter a seemingly loving relationship. She pulls apart the facets of what makes a woman, a strong woman and what makes a marriage tip over to allow domestic violence to enter. C ...more
This book is about Kelly Sundberg's very specific experience, and it is so much more. Like Kelly, I grew up in a town of around 3,000 people in Idaho, a place where everyone around me displayed that women existed to serve their men, that the highest achievement is (for god's sake!) not rocking the boat, and that the mistakes of men happen only because the women were too [stupid, lazy, ugly, fat, clueless, ignorant, pigheaded - take your pick] to have prevented it from happening. I, too, found my ...more
Thank you to the publisher (via Edelweiss) for an advance e-galley in exchange for an honest review.
It's basically impossible to give a book under 5 stars when someone does what Kelly Sundberg does in this book- is able to write eloquently about the most brutal of experiences, is honest and vulnerable about what they experienced. Her abuse was horrific, and she writes openly about her path to realizing that the situation was untenable, about the support she received and the support she didn't. P ...more
I wanted to love this book. The author pours her heart out, and I give her credit for being brave enough to talk openly about a topic we too often sweep under the proverbial rug. I also admire how she has been able to put her life together after living in an emotionally and physically abusive relationship. What I struggled with was the jumping around from one period of time to another, from one location to another. I found it distracting and it broke up the flow of the read for me. But still, I ...more